Maintain your lane- Golden Rule of a successful Marriage An older woman told me a story once, which at the time I felt was totally unsolicited and unnecessary but that’s story for another day. The story goes thus. In the olden days a young woman married the love of her life and was very content. Her husband was a hard worker and supported her as best as he could. She was a stay at home mum. All was well until her friend who we’ll call ‘Tojubo’ started to visit. Tojubo would tell her how lovely Mr Tojubo was and...Read More
Fela and his Kalakuta ‘queens’ I was so excited when I heard about the show Fela and his Kalakuta queens. It was the first time the story was going to be about the queens and not Fela the legend. It came out at the same time I lost my dear dad and but for the fact that the show was so popular hence extended I would not have been able to see it. I actually did not ever meet Fela nor hear him perform live; I never went to the Shrine but I love his music and the fact...Read More
NO MORE SHADES by Yemisi Wada When the slap landed on her face, even before Abiola could process the pain or feel that her jaw was shaking, the first thing she did as usual was to look around as usual to see who saw what happened. To see him beat her up again. The only person she saw was Tosin her and his little princess. ‘Oh, she thought, that’s okay, its only our daughter. Little did she know that years and years after she had died, that was the same thought floating through Tosin’s mind as she was...Read More
This is my book of the month. This book has now been adapted into a movie, which I can’t wait to watch to see if it matches the wonder the book is. This is a story basically of a girl who you find out things in her life just took a wrong turn and just because of the desperation to have a child. She ends up lying that she had a job after she lost hers and would take the train out everyday like she was going to work and in the process saw what she now reported but...Read More
As the Christmas approaches I’m very excited. I start to make plans. I can’t wait for the children to start coming home. ‘Which of my children finish early?’ I wonder. I excitedly call my ‘guys’ at the Airport. Putting them on notice that my treasures are coming home. I’m not scarce at the Airport, as the Yorubas would say. Changing dates and just hanging around Airline staff like they could bring my children quicker than planned. I smile to myself at the thought of how grown they must be and how my mother would be so excited to see...Read More
What age am I? This thought came to me recently very strongly. It all started when I saw my 13-year-old son off at the Airport in London and the Nigerian guys behind me were whispering. They were gossiping about me though it was flattering I suppose. They said they couldn’t believe I was the mother of a son that grown. It gave me immense pleasure to explain that this grown boy is infact my 4th child and I have a 26 year old who is married hence soon going to be a grand mother by the Grace of God....Read More
‘On Becoming…’ –A personal review by ‘Yemisi Wada I was away when someone asked if I had seen the ‘On Becoming…’ video on You Tube. I immediately looked for it and I must say when I watched it I didn’t understand what was coming. I thought perhaps there was going to be a reality show on Toke’s life and adventure moving on. I however didn’t have to wait long as about two days after I got a message from Toke and an invitation to the Book Launch. I had to leave the launch early and didn’t get a...Read More
My sister and I try and sneak into the wedding reception as quietly and as incognito as possible. As usual we are terribly late even though it is our cousin’s wedding. Just as we thought we had made it and miraculously found a table with two free seats close to each other, somebody taps me on the back. ’That woman is calling you’ she says. I look up hoping to ‘eye’ the person calling us to silence that person till our operation ‘sneak in’ was complete, but alas, it’s aunty Oye. our mother’s bestie. So, mission aborted, we walk...Read More
A few years ago a group of University student volunteers and I went around Lagos trying to ascertain exactly how bad this issue of children living on our streets were. One day under one of our bridges we met for the first time a genuine girl street child. That means one actually born on the Streets and has nowhere she calls home. At first when we tried to speak to her and the others they hid, wouldn’t answer and pretend often times that they really didn’t understand what we were saying. They weren’t getting rid of us that quickly...Read More
This is the book of the month and can easily be the book of the year and this decade!! I heard a lot about the book and i had never met Arese Ugwu. I ordered it online, it took sometime to get to me because of a slight hiccup, i sent her an email and her response was the first pleasant surprise. She apologised so profusely i regretted complaining and i got my book immediately. I decided to just scroll through and 2 hours later i was not able to put the book down. I read it till i...Read More
Book of the Month
This is my book of the month. This book has now been adapted into a movie, which I can’t wait to watch to see if it matches the wonder the book is.
This is a story basically of a girl who you find out things in her life just took a wrong turn and just because of the desperation to have a child.